10 Step Sexual Energy Cleanse

OH NO! I've been intimate with someone and I think their energy is bad for me. What do I do?

This has happened to the best of us. Whether you are a man or a woman, chances are that you've had a physical relationship with someone that wasn't very healthy for you. You meet someone, things seem great, but a few steps into the relationship, you start to realize that they are not healthy for you. Whenever you get together, you feel drained... or sick.... or heavy and sluggish... or jittery and unsettled... Whatever you are feeling, you know it's not good. 

At first, you may think it's just you. Or that it's just a coincidence. Low vibration lovers can be like chocolate bars, they seem delicious in the moment, but you find yourself feeling really crummy after you've been with them. There is an addictive quality to some relationships, just like cigarettes or alcohol. You may even crave this person and then feel bad afterwards, asking yourself "Why do I do this?"

It's really hard to tell what kind of baggage people are carrying when you meet them. Of course, all you see is what they want you to see and usually that looks pretty good. Being physically intimate with someone opens all of your energy field to take in all of theirs. You literally blend energies when you blend bodies, and it can be very challenging to sift out the other person's "stuff."

There are so many unseen energies that run through people's auric fields, you couldn't possibly be aware of all of them. So, don't beat yourself up. But do, start to clean your aura up. Here are steps you can take to detox someone else's energy from your field:

#1. Wash it Off

Soak for at least 20 minutes (an hour is better) in a bath of sea salt, epsom salt and/or baking soda. This will literally start to pull the energy out of your body through the pores of your skin. You may even see your bathwater turn gray when you get out. GOOD! It means you released a lot. Begin with a 1/2 cup of each. And if you can tolerate more, go for it.

#2. Rub it Off

After you get out of your bath (or any time you want), massage your body with a blend of essential oils. You don't have to use them all, just whichever ones you like and are available to you. Start with a carrier oil like coconut, safflower or grapeseed. Then add: Rose, Basil, Cypress, Juniper, Frankincense, Lavendar, Myrrh, Sage, Peppermint, Cedarwood, Sandalwood, Cinnamon, Rosemary and/or Eucalyptus. Shake gently and apply lovingly.

#3. Spray it Away

Natural rosewater has been used throughout history to raise the vibration of a space or the people in it. If you put rosewater in a spray bottle, you can mist it through your aura regularly. It's a great aura cleaner. Most health food and Indian grocery stores will carry a decent rose water. Just make sure it is made from actual rose, not just rose scented. The fake perfume rose scent won't help you at all.

#4. Pray it Away
Angels help us with anything and everything. You can use the following prayer daily (or one that you create from your own heart) several times a day: "I call on all of my Guardian Angels + Spirit Guides, asking for Their assistance in releasing any and all energies that do not belong to me. With every breath I take, I now allow my body, emotions, mind, spirit and life to purge _____ from my consciousness permanently. I stand strong in my own Divine Light, allowing it to guide me to people and situations that facilitate my greatest good."

#5. Get Physical

Dedicate your yoga sessions to releasing energies all negative energies that you may have absorbed, in this lifetime or any other. If you don't do yoga, any exercise session will work. Go for a run. A walk. Dance your heart out. Have a little "rendezvous" with yourself. You'll want to focus a little extra on the lower chakras. Hip movements. Squats. Leg lifts. etc. When you begin, set your intention to release all energy that does not belong to you. Tell your body that you love it and will take better care of it in the future.

#6. Run to Mama

And by mama, I mean Mother Earth. Mother Earth has incredible healing energy. There's no mess you can get into that she hasn't seen before. So let her help you clean it up. Walk in a park. Lay on the grass. Swim in a lake. Just spend time in nature and let the healing happen. Naturally.

#7. Smoke it Out

Sage is another powerful aura cleaner. You can buy it in little bundles, light it on fire and "smudge" the space around your body (and your house, if you had the lover over at your place). I've been wanting to do a video on smudging, but I haven't gotten it done yet, so you can check out this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fo6TL4HViRc

#8. Stone it Out

Crystals have powerful healing energies. To clear away negativity, you can stop in at your local rock shop and pick up whatever stones feel good to you. Some of these can be particularly helpful: Clear Quartz, Rose, Quartz, Smoky Quartz, Black Tourmaline, Hematite, Amethyst, Black Obsidian or Snowflake Obsidian. Hold them in your hands. Place them on your body. Sleep with them under your pillow/mattress. Remember to give them a salt bath once in a while too, so their energies can stay fresh and strong.

#9. Breathe it Out

Breathing deeply, with an intention to release someone's energy and to enhance your own, can make a huge shift in your auric cleanse. If you've never don't breathwork before, here's a super easy technique: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zXvYMyJSWxg

#10. Reprogram

Your brain tells everything in your body how to function. So, if you want to wash away old patterns and energies, you need to get your brain on board. You can do this exercise to set your mind into reprogramming mode. This technique will dump the old patterns from your consciousness and align you with your most divine self expression. It's great to do even if you didn't sleep with a low vibration lover. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHK3blpjN9w

If you were intimate with this person more than once, it will probably take a while to detox him or her completely. So, feel free to repeat any of these steps over + over again until you feel clear and back to normal. If you need some help, you can see a professional energy healer. Beware though of people who charge astronomical fees or start telling you that entities are taking over your whole life or that you cursed from a past life. They're usually a scam. 

Know that you have all the tools you need to clear yourself within your own heart. So listen within, and do what feels right, honoring and good for you.

Happy Healing!


Deborah Lighthart
Metaphysical Fitness Coach