10 Tips from a Former Health Nazi

My name is Deborah and I admit that I had a problem. 20 years ago, I was a health nazi. Not a health enthusiast. Not a health advocate. I was a straight out Nazi. I was WAY into healthy living. Way before it was popular to be into it. I'm not gonna lie, we practically lived on probiotics and supplements. We never ate processed foods at home. EVER. I made everything from scratch. I made my kids quinoa flour birthday cakes and blended fruit in my vitamix for "ice cream." I was mortified when people offered them lollipops at the bank or a free cookie at the bakery. Why would anyone want to poison my children like that? I felt like a nori-eating freak in a society of chicken nuggets and french fries. 

This got awkward when we visited family, went to birthday parties, or basically any social situations whatsoever. We'd have to either take our own food with us or try to eat before we went. Of course, the kids would always beg for whatever it was that was there. Brownies. Cake. Fried chicken. Hot dogs. ETC. And, everyone would feel sorry for my poor little deprived children and give me that "How can you do this to them?" look. Whenever they'd indulge, they'd be sick in bed for 5-10 days following. The same thing would happen to me if I chose to stray from my purist diet. But, I was bound and determined to keep our bodies "clean" NO MATTER WHAT.

I lived like that for a few years. Until one day when I was standing in line at the grocery store and picked up a 99cent book at the checkout that changed my life. I don't remember the title, but I completely remember the content. It said that life is not about strict diets, health supplements and medicine, it's about spiritual lessons. Spiritual lessons. WOW! That hit me hard. So, it's not all about the radical cleansing and detoxing of my body? It's also about my emotions, mind, spirit and life too? That was pivotal for me. I started to see that if I wasn't tending to every aspect of myself, no matter how much I controlled my body, I would never really be happy. I would never feel the peace that I was so desperately seeking. I'd continue to be the stressball of tension that I was, trying to fight off all of the "badness" that I perceived in the world.

My whole life headed in a new direction. I started to pay more attention to my emotions, my mind, my spiritual journey and my life and less attention to my diet + exercise. Sometimes I've taken diet + exercise off the chart completely. At times, I've felt stretched in so many directions, trying to "fix" every piece of me that I just wanted to give up and check out. Then I relax and understand, I don't have to do it all at once. And neither do you. Trees don't grow all of their branches in the exact same way at the exact same rate. They naturally grow a little here... grow a little more there... and even more up there.... We are designed to grow the same way.

So, here are some things that I've learned along the way, that might be able to help you grow like a tree. :)

#1. eat well.
It is important to eat real food with real nutrients. Nutrients nourish your body. They are necessary for proper functioning, so look for foods that are full of them. Natural foods that come from the earth are always going to be better than anything processed. End of story.

#2. but don't be a nazi about it.
If you're like me and you grew up on doritos and donuts, don't expect your body to never, ever crave those foods again. It's not the end of the world if you eat a cookie, or two, just don't eat the whole box. If you are detoxing for extended periods of time and feeling physically sick from it, you are cleansing your body beyond what your emotions, mind + spirit are ready for. Loosen up a little. 

#3. feel good.
Most people think of feeling good as some magical thing that happens to them when the stars align. You can feel good any time you choose to, if you just choose to. Decide in any given moment, to love, accept, honor, respect + appreciate your life, yourself, your friends/family and the world. The sooner you realize that you are in control of your feelings, the better off you will be.

#4. but don't be fake about it.
True healing come from true feeling. It's really ok to sometimes feel mad or upset about things. If that is your honest response to a situation, it's really ok to feel it. And even express it. Obviously, you'll want to do it in a healthy way that honors you and others, but never expect yourself to be a perfect vision of love and light in every moment. You came here to the earth to be human. So, be it.

#5. think positive.
The more good you see in the world, the more you will find and the more it will grow. Look for something nice to say about yourself. And say it. Look for something nice to say about others. And say it. When you think positive thoughts, you are more likely to have a positive life. 

#6. but don't overlook the negative.
It doesn't do any good to try to pretend there is something good in a situation that is just not good. If someone does something to  you that is unfair, unreasonable or unjust, see it for what it is and respond to it accordingly. Wearing rose-colored glasses may make everything look rosey, but it doesn't change the actual color. In life, it's best if you can learn to enjoy all of the colors. They've all got their gifts.

#7. shine your light.
Being the best version of yourself that you can be is the best gift you can give to the world. And to yourself. When you feel good about who you are, you live better, you sleep better, you feel happier. Let your light shine. Share your gifts and talents and wisdom. Not just for us, but for yourself. So at the end of the day, you can say, "I effin' rocked today!"

#8. but don't be afraid of the dark.
We've all got our shadows. I don't care who you are, where you are, or how much you think you've evolved, we've ALL got shadows. We've all got our own fears and frustrations, doubts and insecurities, angers and irritations, our own pain and woundedness. When you stand up under the sun, it casts a shadow behind you. That happens because you live on earth. Living on Earth = Having a Shadow. The sooner you get to know yours, the less impact it will have on you and your life. So, explore your darkness. I promise you that it's not as bad as you think.

#9. love your life.
You may not understand why everything happens the way it does, but you can accept it and learn from it. Your life is exactly what you need to grow in all the ways that you came here to grow. It is designed to help you excavate + explore your true gifts and empower you to use them. Love the ups and the downs with as much enthusiasm as you can, since they are all part of your evolution. 

Keep in mind that it's ok to get upset when life is not giving you what you think you want. Sometimes life will hand you some real serious lemons. In fact, you may get a lot of them. That's life. You've just got to remember to "add sugar." Discover what sweetens your world and then make time + space for it. Let's face it, no one wants to drink straight lemon juice. Add some of what you love to whatever it is that you don't, and it will feel so much better.

#10. let your life love you.
One of the biggest things we do that keeps us from being happy, health + whole, is block out the love and beauty that is in our life already. No matter who you are, chances are that there is someone around you that loves you and wants to give you a reason to smile. It could be a neighbor with a kind word. A friend who listens to you cry. Someone who has a crush on you. Your pets. Your kids. Whoever, or whatever it is, you have love around you. Look for it. Soak it up. Drink it in. Be thankful for it. It's there for a reason and it's your duty to accept it. Let yourself be loved as often as you can and you will find your whole world changing. 

deborah lighthart
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