Love + Gratitude

15 years ago, I was a single mother of 3, struggling to make ends meet with no help from family, friends or my children's fathers. I started dating this awesome "new age" guy who gifted me with an Abundance Journal. When he gave it to me, I was kinda pissed. I felt like, "It's easy for you to have gratitude, you have plenty of money to do whatever you want. It's easy to be grateful for trips to the Bahamas + meals at all your favorite restaurants. Every day, I have to decide which necessities I am going to go without that day. What the hell do I have to be grateful for? You can take your gratitude journal and stick it where..." Of course, my mother taught me manners, so I would never say that out loud, but I was for sure thinkin' it. I understood the concept, but didn't see how writing things in that journal would change anything about my life. I needed more money, plain and simple. I didn't need to be thankful for running water or for rice and beans that kept my kids from starving. (or so I thought).

Initially, all I could write in that book was how grateful I was for him and the way he loved me. How grateful I was for my kids and the beautiful moments that we shared. I simply refused to be thankful for my impoverished situation. I felt like thanking the Universe for running water would mean that I was "settling" for whatever kind of life God would give me, even if it was a crappy one. I actually used that book for years, since it took me a long time to think of things that I could feel truly grateful for.

After 15 years of personal growth work, I can see now that Love + Gratitude are the strongest creators of our reality. What you love, you empower. What you are grateful for grows. Your life is navigated by the emotional charges you put into it. It took me a while to "get it" but after all this time, I can now see that Love + Gratitude are the tools to change my life. If you feel like I used to, I would like to invite you to try using these tools for a while and see what happens in your life. It's not an overnight fix, but with daily use, they will change your world.

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