Yesterday I wrote of the recipe for success. Here's a review: have a new thought, create a new action, build a new belief, and allow that belief to become the foundation upon which all future thoughts and actions are based… transformation!
By doing this you really can transform your life. Once you are successful doing this with one thought, you will want to do it again and again. Why? Because it feels good! You really can have anything you want. You really can change anything you want. You really can become anything you want. You simply need to accept the idea that it is an inside job to do it, and commit to doing it. Here is how it is done.
This is actually just as simple as it sounds, and is actually quite easy to accomplish. Let me use an example to illustrate this. Perhaps your primary romantic relationship that has become a bit predictable and stale. Let’s be more specific and say you don’t find your wife of twelve years as sexy and loving as you did when the relationship was new. Let’s say that you have found a few of her habits to now be annoying. There are frustrations you have with each other, and you don’t believe that she is as “into” you as she once was.
Pick a new thought… how about, “My wife and I are even more madly in love with each other than we ever were, and she is absolutely my dream girl in every way!” Okay, that sounds like a lot, right? It’s not. This is actually quite easy to believe and re-create. It simply requires focus.
For some, it might simply be the thought itself that brings it all back. For some it might require writing it down, and focusing on your written affirmation a few times to bring it all back. Most likely it will require a continuous commitment for whatever period of time necessary for the belief to be created around your new thought and action.
Here’s the plan that works for me. Write down the affirmation and refine it until you are really happy you have it exactly right. I like the ideas of, “she is the girl of my dreams.” First, find a way to keep repeating that thought over and over. Put the affirmation where you will see it… on the bathroom mirror, on the dashboard of your car, on your desk at work, in your wallet so you see it every time you open it… basically put it everywhere.
Now create some actions around the thought. How would you behave around the girl of your dreams? Bring her flowers. Buy her a gift. Write her a poem. Call her unexpectedly to tell her how much you care. Plan a wonderful date or a romantic vacation. Think about her needs and desires. See her. Listen to her. Be fascinated with her. Re-create many of the actions you took in the earliest part of your relationship, the “falling in love” phase.
These thoughts and actions are all based on acting as if the affirmation is already true. Don’t ask her to do anything different. Don’t make any of your actions dependent upon her changing. This transformation is all about you. You are creating a new belief for yourself.
I find that to accomplish something truly big in my life, like re-creating the girl-of-my-dreams relationship, I need to use the three-minute drill. Set a timer to ring every three minutes as a reminder to repeat your affirmation. Use all the visual reminders, and the actions, and the three-minute drill. Do it continuously until it works. It is guaranteed to work. Whatever thought you are totally obsessed with will become your reality in time. Give it whatever time it takes. I personally find that doing it right with the three-minute drill and the total obsession, it only takes two to three days.
Is that worth it? Two to three days to create a total transformation in your life. You bet! In this example, make this investment in your thoughts, your actions, and your focus and you will find yourself married to “the girl of your dreams.” Your can do this in any other area of your life as well, just as easily, and just as effectively.
Can it really be that simple? Yes, it is! But you have to do ALL of it.
Rick Schaefer, M.D. is known as the Happiness Coach. He is the creator of Guilt-Free Coaching, and is the author of Extreme Thought Makeover™… 37 Days to Maximum Life! He speaks throughout the U.S. and has a following in more than 50 countries. To learn more or to work with Dr. Rick directly, call 414-573-8880 or go to http://www.rickschaefermd.com